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Texarkana, Arkansas: Energy, sex drive & stress reduction!
William D. Bailey 4288 Fittro Street Texarkana, AR 75501
It happens to us all. Some days we feel energized and exuberant while others we are left drained, exhausted, and overwhelmed. Life provides numerous obstacles and it's only normal to feel tired from time to time.
I know I've often been left wondering is it my diet, too much work, or not enough quality sleep that leaves me lethargic at times? You may be wondering what happened to your sharp mind and vigorous sex drive? The answer isn't always cut and dry and there are many variables when it comes to our health and overall level of energy.
While diet and sleep largely affect how we feel, stress also plays a huge factor in feeling fatigued. Stress pumps cortisol (also known as the stress hormone) into our systems directly from the adrenal glands. The “fight or flight” response we get from cortisol being released is normal but if too much is released too often, this can exhaust our adrenal glands making them less efficient and effective. In turn, we have a tough time feeling calm which may lead to less physical energy and a lowered sex drive.
The good news is that there are natural herbs which offer support to the adrenal glands and are known to boost the libido and energy levels too!
Here is a list of the top 3 choices which are all part of the ginseng family. I have noticed amazing results using these herbs with no adverse side effects. It's best to try one for 3 months and then change it up periodically.
MACA is also known as Peruvian ginseng and comes from the radish family. It is most commonly found in supplement or powder form and can easily be added to your daily smoothie or cookie recipe.
ASHWAGANDA is a part of the tomato family and is also called Indian ginseng. Often used in the Ayurvedic tradition, this orange berry-like fruit with a leaf around it offers great adrenal and libido-supporting properties and many people notice a wonderful, steady energy soon after taking it.
TONGKAT ALI is also called Malaysian ginseng and has been referred to as Asian Pfizer's Blue for obvious reasons. It is known to provide steady energy and a libido boost by supporting proper testosterone production in men. Tongkat Ali also works for women.
Listen to your body at all times. Just because something is natural doesn't always mean that they are good for your individual health situation. It's best to supplement with these herbs earlier in the day to avoid insomnia and lastly, look for top quality, organic products and always check with your doctor before beginning a new supplement regimen.
Houston, Texas: Marriages or Legal Prostitution in Saudi Arabia?
Carlos E. Wilder 1621 Circle Drive Houston, TX 77020
A fanatic viewer does not consider the blogger as a historian and heritage management expert.He describes him as Shia and Kafir. Despite clarification that only those who deny Allah and Holy Prophet as his messenger can be dubbed as kafirs, he goes ahead with his own interpretation.Amusingly, he considers Jahangir as a true believer and alleges that Shias raise objection over a womaniser and drunkard Emperor while they themselves enjoy the privilege of Muta. He even went on stating once that Shias resort to Swapping of their wives with a sarcastic remark "Teri Meri,Meri Teri,Ha,Ha,Ha,Ha.
It is clear from all his replies that he is an ardent admirer of Saudi Arabia and out of his ignorance feels that Salafis /Wahabis/Saudis are devout Muslims.To make the fanatic understand as to how Grand Muftis of Saudi Arabia have legitimized prostitution through their unique fatwas and how many types of marriages are being performed in so called holy kingdom, the blogger decided to reveal the true face of Saudi Salafis.While my fanatic friend did not support his accusation with any fact ,figure or evidence, the blogger is replying to his allegations as under :
1- Misyar is a temporary relationship between men and women for sexual pleasure. In this relationship the woman relinquishes all her rights that are available to her in an Islamic marriage. It is claimed that 60 Salafi scholars, including Saudi Grand Mufti Shaikh Abdulaziz al-Shaikh endorsed Misyar relationship between men and women in their fatawas.
2-Arab News reported on October 12, 2014 that MISYAR IS A WIDESPREAD SOCIAL REALITY IN SAUDI SALAFI SOCIETY as 7 out of 10 marriages in Saudi Arabia are based on Misyar.
Several other formats of fake marriages in Saudi Arabia are :
(a) URFA - In this relationship, there are no official contracts signed and also does not give women any rights whatsoever. She is kept as along as the man wishes to use her for sex.
(b) MESYAF ( Summer holiday marriage) - It is a tourism marriage practised by Saudis and other Salafis in the world who go on summer vacation to countries, like Yamen, India, Pakistan, Bangladesh and other countries. They take advantage of poor Muslim families by fake marriages with young, rather very young girls between the ages of 9 to 16 years in collusion with local middlemen and agents who are paid for these notorious services.
(c) FRIEND MARRIAGE - In this marriage, the bride does not go out of her house. The male goes to her house in the night or meets with her in a hotel and have sex with her.Then.she goes back to her home.There is no provision of legal maintenance from man.In most of the cases the woman demands a certain amount and gets it in advance.
(e) MISFAR - (Foreign study and Business Trip marriage)It is a deceptive marriage contracted by a Salafi for sexual gratification so that a woman may cohabit with him for the period he is visiting a foreign country. These women are formally divorced after a short period that ranges from a week to a month. It is natural that most of these women who fall victim to this kind of fake marriage come from deprived backgrounds, and have very little say in the matter. Many Fatawa by Saudi Scholars in this context are available on officialwebsites like Bin Baaz.
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Most alarming in this context is the Fatwa by Shaikh Adil Al-Kalbani, the Imam of the Grand Mosque of Makka issued on July 16, 2010. This Fatwa was published on www.al-arabiya.net.
Sheikh issued this fatwa after receiving an email from an overseas Saudi male student studying in the ‘West'. The Saudi student, who is married and living with his wife, claims that he is worried about controlling his desires when he sees ‘Western' females wearing seductive semi-naked clothes that arouse him.He asks the Sheikh it is OK to marry one of those women in a ‘Misfar' marriage,
Sheikh posted on his own website his fatwa that permits Saudis marrying Western women with the intention of divorcing them when they are finished with them without the pre-knowledge of the women of their deceitful plan. Meaning, the Imam has given green light to Saudi overseas students and travelling businessmen to use women as disposable containers to relieve themselves sexually.
Saudi Newspaper Ash-Sharq on February 03, 2011, devoted its main page to launch a scathing and virulent attack on Saudis who travel abroad and indulge in obscene (sex) parties, night clubs and prowl in sex tourism countries around the Globe. The paper also published several pictures, videos and films showing Saudis dancing in obscene parties.
San Diego, California: Can Child Sex Dolls Prevent Pedophiles From Offending?
Darron E. Brooks 1946 Hood Avenue San Diego, CA 92126
Trottla, a company run by known pedophile Shin Takagi, creates eerily life-like child sex dolls for those with pedophilia.
The Japanese company creates the dolls to provide pedophiles with an outlet for their sexual impulses. “I am helping people express their desires, legally and ethically.” Takagi told The Atlantic.
The dolls, some modeled to be as young as five years old, are meant to be as authentic as possible. The synthetic material used for the skin is supposed to feel similar to human skin. Anatomically, the dolls are disturbingly close to real children. In fact, the more petite models even have ribs and hip bones just beneath the skin. The level of detail in each doll is unnerving.
Clients can place special orders to customize the doll's aesthetic, including clothing, age, facial expression, and custom features like tails or horns. The materials used to create the dolls are potentially hazardous, so discarding the dolls is complicated. If they need to dispose of their doll, clients must send it back to Trottla. One client wanted Takagi to “send [the doll] back home.”
Takagi hopes his dolls give pedophiles a healthy channel for their urges. Is it possible to be a non-offending pedophile, though? The words pedophile and child molester are often used interchangeably, but is there more to it?
It is vitally important to separate pedophilia from child molestation. Doing so does not justify or condone either. It simply allows two distinct but related issues to be addressed correctly.
Despite popular usage, pedophilia is a specific and limited term. Strictly speaking, pedophilia is a persistent sexual interest in prepubescent children. Although a definitive cause for pedophilia has not been discerned, many have had unhealthy or traumatic experiences in their childhood. This sexual interest is divorced from action, meaning pedophilic attraction does not always lead to assault against a child.
This distinction has found support in scientific work. David Riegel (2004) found that the vast majority (78.6%) of respondents (self-identified boy-preferring pedophiles) reported no legal history as a result of allegations of sexual contact with a boy. Dr. Michael C. Seto (2006) studied men who are likely pedophilic (all had child pornography charges), finding that 57% had no known history of sexual contact with a child.
In fact, there are so-called “virtuous pedophiles,” who have never offended but are living with pedophilic attraction. They are committed to avoid the abuse of children while acknowledging their attraction to children. Their website provides a forum for these people to talk through everything from their sexual struggles to their favorite movie. For more on “virtuous pedophiles,” look into Barcroft TV's video on Todd Nickerson, a member and public advocate for the group.
As troubling as this whole phenomenon is, the big questions remains. Will Trottla's dolls help pedophiles or hurt them?
It depends on who you ask.
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Takagi and his clients would wholeheartedly endorse child sex dolls. Dr. Vivienne Cass, a clinical psychologist and sexual therapist, agrees. She told BuzzFeed News that “engaging with a doll provides a safe and private outlet” for pedophiles. Furthermore, Dr. Cass said “access to sex dolls might be considered a compassionate act for such individuals.”
However, Dr. Peter Fargan does not share this sentiment. The paraphilia researcher told The Atlantic that child sex dolls may “cause [pedophilia] to be acted upon with greater urgency.”
He pointed to a study from Dr. Drew Kingston in which pornography usage was associated with higher rates of violent and sexual reoffending in high-risk child molesters. Also, deviant pornography (including child pornography) was associated with higher rates of violent and sexual reoffending across all child molesters. Dr. Fargan suggests that Trottla's dolls may have a similar reinforcing effect.
That being said, this work was done with child molesters and pornography not pedophiles and child sex dolls. It does not translate neatly, but it is possible that the child sex dolls may rile up some high-risk pedophiles.
Dr. Seto makes this same point in The Atlantic piece. He says “for some pedophiles, access to artificial child pornography or to child sex dolls could be a safer outlet for their sexual urges, reducing the likelihood that they would seek out child pornography or sex with real children. For others, having these substitutes might only aggravate their sense of frustration.”
Specialized research is the only thing that will accurately reveal the efficacy of child sex dolls.
Whatever the result, though, this is a disheartening, troubling, and outraging topic. Pedophilia is a worldwide taboo that evokes visceral reactions. This proposed solution to the pedophilia problem is off-putting, even if it works. The use of child sex dolls is complex and controversial, to say the least. That being said, it is far from settled.
Louisville, Kentucky: Bizarre Japanese physio has fallen in love with a SEX DOLL who ‘doesn't grumble' – and forces long-suffering wife to live under the same roof
George J. Shepard 4695 Karen Lane Louisville, KY 40272
Masayuki, 45, said: “After my wife gave birth we stopped having sex and I felt a deep sense of loneliness.
“But the moment I saw Mayu in the showroom, it was love at first sight.
“My wife was furious when I first brought Mayu home. These days she puts up with it, reluctantly.
“When my daughter realised it wasn't a giant Barbie doll, she freaked out and said it was gross — but now she's old enough to share Mayu's clothes.”
Masayuki, who works as a physio, takes his doll out on dates in a wheelchair and dresses her in wigs, sexy clothes and jewellery.
He admits to being turned off by human relationships, adding during a seaside stroll with his rubber companion: “Japanese women are cold-hearted.
“They're very selfish. Men want someone to listen to them without grumbling when they get home from work.
“Whatever problems I have, Mayu is always there waiting for me. I love her to bits and want to be with her for ever.
“I can't imagine going back to a human being. I want to be buried with her and take her to heaven.”
He is one of an increasing number of Japanese men turning to romantic relationships with sex dolls in a country that has officially lost its mojo.
Experts are worried by Japan‘s plummeting birth rate, which poses serious problems for the future of the economy as it faces a dwindling number of workers.
But a growing number of men — known as “herbivores” — are turning their backs on marriage and traditional masculine values for a quiet, uncompetitive life.
Every year around 2,000 of the life-like sex dolls — which cost from £4,600 and come with adjustable fingers, removable head and realistic genitals — are sold in Japan.
Hideo Tsuchiya, managing director of doll maker Orient Industry, said: “Technology has come a long way since those nasty inflatable dolls in the 1970s.
“They look incredibly real now and it feels like you're touching human skin. More men are buying them because they feel they can actually communicate with the dolls.”
They are popular with disabled customers and widowers, as well as mannequin fetishists, and some men use dolls to avoid heartache.
Senji Nakajima, 62, tenderly bathes his rubber girlfriend Saori, has framed photos of her on his wall and even takes her skiing and surfing.
He said on a romantic picnic beneath a canopy of cherry blossom: “Human beings are so demanding. People always want something from you — like money or commitment.
“My heart flutters when I come home to Saori. She never betrays me, she makes my worries melt away.”
Senji's romance with Saori has divided his family and his wife has banned her from the family home, but the Tokyo-born businessman refuses to give her up.
He said: “My son accepts it, my daughter can't.
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“I'll never date a real woman again — they're heartless.”
The doll sleeps in his bed in a cluttered apartment on the outskirts of Tokyo, sandwiched between two dolls from previous dalliances and a headless rubber torso.
He admits reconciliation with his estranged wife is unlikely, adding: “I wouldn't be able to take a bath with Saori, or snuggle up with her and watch TV.
“I don't want to destroy what I have with her.”
And while the pillow talk is decidedly one-way, Senji believes he has discovered true love.
He said: “I'd never cheat on her, even with a prostitute, because to me she's human.”
Another doll lover is Yoshitaka Hyodo, whose home in Saitama is an Aladdin's Cave of dolls, kitsch toys and Japanese erotica.
He lives alone but has an “understanding” girlfriend. She would have to be as he owns more than ten life-size dummies, many of which he dresses in combat uniform to play out wartime fantasies.
The 43-year-old blogger said: “In the future I think more and more guys will choose relationships with dolls.
“It's less stress and they complain a lot less than women.”
But he claims to have cut down on having sex with dolls.
He said: “It's more about connecting on an emotional level for me now.
“People might think I'm weird, but it's no different from collecting sports cars. I don't know how much I've spent but it's cheaper than a Lamborghini.”
Future doll users can expect more bang for their buck as researchers are developing next-generation sexbots able to talk, laugh, simulate an orgasm — and even remember your birthday.
But for now, Masayuki's long-suffering wife Riho tries hard to ignore the rubber temptress silently taunting her from her husband's bedroom.
She said: “I just get on with the housework.
“I make the dinner, I clean, I do the washing. I choose sleep over sex.”
Last month we told how a Japanese fetish doll exhibition celebrating 40 years of the industry attracted hundreds of horny visitors.
Westbury, New York: This Female Genital Mutilation Survivor Teaches Victims How To Enjoy Sex
Aaron C. Sutton 1763 Morningview Lane Westbury, NY 11590
“Even though the clitoris has been removed, that doesn't stop us from having full capacity of pleasure.”
Three days after Sarian Karim Kamara was cut, she was permitted to remove the cloth that covered her aching genitals. When she looked down, she saw her inner labia and “bits” of her clitoris remained. The then-11-year-old had struggled so much during the procedure that the witch doctor stopped the traditional practice midway.
That same day, women in the community dragged the little girl back to the bondo bush, the area designated for female circumcision, and held her down once more. This time, the cutter made sure to finish the job.
“It was hell,” Kamara, 39, told The Huffington Post.
FGM includes procedures that intentionally injure the female genital organs for non-medical reasons. In addition to disfigurement, the procedure comes with a host of risks, including childbirth complications, urinary tract infections and death, among others, according to the World Health Organization.
Part of the reason why Kamara's community in Sierra Leone, and others like it, support female genital mutilation is to keep girls from experiencing sexual pleasure. The goal is to prevent them from having pre-martial sex so they'll remain “pure” for their wedding day.
In Kamara's case, the cutters failed to a certain degree.
Kamara told HuffPost that she remains haunted by the experience, and can still recall the sharp pain that seared through her. But, she has now also grown to love her body, enjoy sex and achieve orgasms.
“Even though the clitoris has been removed, that doesn't stop us from having full capacity of pleasure during sex,” Kamara told HuffPost at the Women Deliver conference in Copenhagen last month. “It's just difficult because you have to engage both physically and mentally.”
Kamara has been sexually active since she was 18. It took her four years to experience her first orgasm. But she only learned how to truly enjoy intercourse once she met her now-husband at 28 in London, where Kamara lives. Her husband, who is also from Sierra Leone, was the first man who was patient with her and worked to understand the trauma that she had endured.
“What I've learned, with his help, is how to understand my body,” she said. “He knows my spots, knows what turns me on, and how to engage with me sexually. That really, really helped me.”
Before she met her husband, sex was an excruciating and detached process. She said her ex-husband, and her other partners, never considered her wants or needs, which is characteristic of her community, Kamara said.
“Sexual intercourse was really, really difficult,” Kamara said of her past experiences. “When he demands sex, you don't have to be ready. You just lie down and they have their way.”
Though Kamara was eager to escape the oppressive traditions of her community when she relocated to England in 1999, she moved to, and continues to live in, an area that's heavily populated by Sierra Leoneans.
But after uncovering that sex can actually be pleasurable, Kamara was inspired to start counseling other FGM survivors from her area.
More than 200 million women alive today have undergone FGM, according to the World Health Organization's estimates. Due to migration, the practice is on the rise in a number of areas around the world, including in the U.S. In the U.K., an FGM case is reported every 109 minutes, the Independent reported in February.
FGM is spreading despite a 2012 U.N. resolution, which called on countries to ban the practice.
Such increased risks have prompted advocates to ramp up their efforts. They're working to create programs to help curb the practice and offer more supportive services for women and girls who have been cut.
Kamara, who earned a degree in community development from London Metropolitan University, is uniquely positioned to reach some of the least accessible FGM survivors.
In Sierra Leone, 90 percent of women and girls have been cut, according to UNICEF.
Unlike survivors from other regions, where FGM is just as widely practiced, those from Sierra Leone are often less likely to talk about it and seek help, according to Kamara.
After they're circumcised, girls and women are told that they should never mention it, and that doing so can bring on a curse and humiliate the family, Kamara said.
And discussing sex is deemed particularly reprehensible.
“They have this fear that something bad will happen to them if they talk about it,” Kamara added. “We're very hard to reach.”
The campaigner said that when she attends forums on the topic, she'll often meet survivors from the Gambia, Libya, Somalia and other African countries. But she's usually the sole representative from Sierra Leone.
Yet, despite the survivors' reluctance to come forward, Kamara said once she connects with them, she finds that they're eager to open up.
“At the end of the day, they really want to talk,” Kamara said. “They just need a safe platform.”
Kamara has cultivated such a space in London where she runs bi-monthly workshops. Participants often echo Kamara's sentiments when it comes to sex.
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Some women can't engage sexually at all. Because any time someone touches their vagina, whether it's an intimate partner or even a physician, they'll get a horrific flashback.
“They've lost interest. They can't have pleasure,” Kamara noted. “I try to make them understand that they have to be ready. Their body has to be ready. Their partners have to understand that.”
Kamara sets strict rules for each session and is careful about the wording she uses when she addresses the topic.
For example, she never says “mutilation.” Rather, when she discusses FGM, she refers to it as “bonda,” which is the traditional term. Kamara also encourages the women to bring their partners so they can start having a more open dialogue about sex and what does and doesn't work for them.
Kamara is working on launching a nonprofit called “Keep the Drums. Lose the Knives.” The name is derived from the ceremonial aspects surrounding the FGM tradition.
When girls are cut, all they're made aware of in advance is that they'll receive gifts and revel in traditional music. They know nothing of getting circumcised.
“I was so excited,” Kamara said of how she felt at the time. “I was dancing with the women.”
When a girl gets circumcised, the drummers beat their instruments harder to drown out the screams.
Kamara hopes to teach her community how to engage in such celebrations without the abuse.
While Kamara said she's at peace with her body, she still occasionally finds herself wondering what her life would be like if she hadn't been cut.
“When I'm really engaged in sexual activity, the pleasure I have ... I can only imagine if I had my clitoris, what it would be like,” she said.
Still, while she thinks reconstructive surgery may benefit some survivors, it's not something she's interested in.
“I've managed to find myself. I've found my safe spot,” she said. “There's no guarantee it would work. Something could go wrong that could ruin what I already have.”
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